This article will give you a perspective for things to be done to improve your relationship with your wife or Husband … Before losing a woman or man you loved, this is the tips you must know…
1. NEVER STOP DATING
Never take your life partner for granted. When you are take the marriage vows, you promised to be that man or women that would protect HER or HIS HEART and to make it HAPPY. This is the most important and loving treasure you will ever had with her or him. Your partner chosen YOU. Never forget or never stop loving your partner.
2. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART
You must committed to guard your own with the same way you protecting your partners HEART. Love yourself and love others openly, but protect the special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife or husband. Keep that space always open to your partner.
3. FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER again
You will continuously change. You will not be the same person you were when you got married, and in three years you will not be the same person you are today. Changes will come continuously, with that you have to choose each other every day. Your partner DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, if you don’t take care of her or his heart, your partner may give that heart to someone else or close the door for you completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were approaching her first time.
4. ALWAYS TRY to SEE THE BEST in your partner
Try to find the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man or women on earth to be have in your partner’s life.
5. NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX your Partner
Your job is to love your partner as they are with no expectation of they ever change. And if they change, love what they becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
6. Allow your Partner to JUST BE them
When they sad or upset, every time you can’t fix it, sometimes it’s your job to HOLD them and let them know it’s ok. Let them know that you hear them and they are important. Stand with them strongly and let them know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen and understand to what they really saying and emotion.
7. BE SILLY
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make your partner laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
8. BE PRESENT
Give her or him not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her or him. Treat her as you would your most valuable person in the world.
9. DON’T BE AN IDIOT
You will make mistakes and so as they. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
10. BE VULNERABLE
You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
11. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her or him in when you don’t know they will like what they finds… That courage is allowing her or him to love you completely, your negative part as well as your Positive part. You don’t have be perfect all the time.
12. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
13. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY
FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
MARRIAGE isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.
Marriage is life, It will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.
These are just points to carrying forward the marriage. Truth is, people LOVED being married and with the time take every possible step you can take to build a solid foundation that will endure any ups and down in life.
